En omvänd kvinna

Jag har haft bröllop på hjärnan ett tag. Jag vet det, och jag vet att ni vet det. Det är kul att hålla på och surfa och läsa brudtidningar, men när jag hittade en blogg som heter 2000 dollar wedding och började läsa blev jag FRÄLST! Jag är nu en ny kvinna. För vad sägs om detta:

We were tired of all the propaganda from the Wedding Industrial Complex telling us that we needed the perfect flowers or the perfect centerpieces to make our day perfect. We didn’t want to obsess about surface details or let the wedding overshadow our relationship. We wanted our wedding to be sincere, authentic, and memorable—a wedding focused on community and connection, not my wedding dress. We were convinced that we could make it work in a budget-minded, hand-crafted, eco-friendly way.

And—with the help of good-natured friends and family, a little luck (the rain stayed away), and a solid plan—we managed to pull off a stress-free wedding that was the truest expression of ourselves. It was better than we expected. It was full of seriously fun quality time with our friends, family, and—most importantly—each other.

Hon säger också:

This backwards-approach [att börja med en vision av hur man vill att slutresultatet ska vara] works for weddings, too. What a great way to plan!

What do you want to think and feel about your wedding when it's all said and done?

What do you want your guests to think and feel about your wedding when it's all said and done?

What are the smaller details that align with creating those feelings?

Sedan skrev hon och henens fästman ner nio punkter på vad de ville åstadkomma med bröllopet, varav den första (som exempel) var: To bring family and friends together to reconnect and form new friendships.

Ingen skriver som första punkt: Ha rosa färgschema. Men ändå är det på den sortens detaljer man lägger ner större delen av bröllopsförberedelsetiden! Nej; Sit down with your fiancé and figure out what kind of wedding you want. What do you want to be able to say about it when it’s over? What do you want your guests to say? How will you make your wedding memorable, relaxing, and fun? Develop a list of your goals and vision and then move on to the smaller details. Always ask yourself, “Does this small detail align with my broader goals?” Make decisions accordingly.

Ett annat gott råd hon ger är följande:
Moderate Your Wedding Porn Viewing
Don’t spend too much time reading wedding magazines and blogs. Yes, they give you ideas. Yes, they are fun. But mainly they just make you doubt things you’ve already decided on.

Genialt.

Ni kan läsa hela hennes berättelse om hur de kom fram till och genomförde sitt 2000 dollar wedding här

I think too many of us start with the details first. What will our colors be? Will we have a sit-down dinner or a buffet? Will I wear a veil or not?